Thoughtfulness is Key in Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back
If you are questioning, “Can I get my ex girlfriend back?” then the breakup likely wasn’t so bad that you believe the relationship can’t be brought back to life. But, you will have to hope she feels this way too. If you said or did anything to cause heart-ache during the breakup that you should apologize for, now is the right time to say you are sorry. Being sorry and saying it with sincerity is a mature first step.
Can I win my ex-girlfriend back by expressing my sensitive side?
Although there is no guarantee you will get her back, the odds lean increasingly in your favor when you start doing the right things. Let her know how much you miss being with her, and how sorry you are for things you might have said that hurt her. Then pay careful attention to how she responds. If your gestures of regret just make her mad—for example, she tosses away the dozen roses you got her or something similarly dramatic to that—modify your strategy till you discover something she reacts to positively.
For instance, if giving her flowers or a card frustrates her, it’s probably because it’s so simple to pick up the telephone, or go online, and place an order for flowers or buy a card written by another person. Try to put yourself in her situation and come up with something more creative and personal. Get a blank card and write her poetry in it. It’s not important that it rhymes. As a matter of fact it’s better if it doesn’t rhyme. Just attempt to express how you feel with heart-felt honesty. You can also present her with a bouquet you put together with flowers you picked yourself.
There is a very common complaint that many women have. And that is that men just aren’t thoughtful. During the relationship were you thoughtful and considerate of her feelings? Now you may be asking yourself, can I get my ex girlfriend back by being thoughtful? Not necessarily, however it is another step toward your goal of getting her back. Every positive thing you do adds up, making it easier and easier for her to want to come back to you. However, don’t expect changes to happen overnight. It may take time.
If you seldom did thoughtful things while in your relationship, or you just did them in the beginning, she will likely question the things you do now. But just be patient, and maintain your efforts. Do not come across frustrated or upset. Do thoughtful things for her because it feels good to make her happy, not because you are working towards a goal.
Can I win my ex girlfriend back by going on dates with other women?
If a lot of time has passed since the breakup, and you are still working at being thoughtful, a casual date with another woman may appear harmless, and might even make your ex wish she was your date. Nevertheless, go too far and you may end up pushing her further away.
Can I win my ex girlfriend back if she has a new boyfriend?
The odds are stacked against you; however, if you’re able to show her that she will be happier being with you than the new boyfriend you’ll have a good shot of getting her back. Being thoughtful will go a long way toward demonstrating that to her. Even if it seems impossible, don’t quit.
If it seems she has moved on, still send her a card you wrote just to wish her a great week. However, don’t appear as though you have any expectations. Your thoughtfulness may really impress her.
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4 comments
How I Shed T h i r t y P o u n d s in Only a Month on May 6, 2009 at 1:59 pm
Hi, nice post. I have been thinking about this topic,so thanks for blogging. I’ll probably be coming back to your site. Keep up the good work
Girlfriend on January 16, 2010 at 1:52 am
Excellent work on this article. It makes for an interesting and easy read.
victor on February 10, 2010 at 1:03 pm
my ex girlfriend had a boyfriend, it happened 3 weeks ago, and she told me that she is more happy with him than me, is it hopeless? or i should work somethings out?
Admin on February 11, 2010 at 10:17 am
Sorry to hear about your situation. It’s not at all hopeless to get her back but you have to go about it in the right way. First of all, it sounds like she is in a rebound relationship, which usually don’t last long. However, instead of waiting and hoping that her relationship with the other guy will end soon there are things you will want to do, as well as avoid if you want to get her back. First, don’t act needy around her, telling her ten times a day how much you miss her. Definitely don’t tell her why she is better off with you than the other guy. Both of these things are turn offs and will only push her further away. Instead, tell her how happy you are for her (I know this will be difficult), and that, although she has moved on, you would like to remain friends. As time goes by she may come to realize how much she misses being in a relationship with you and she will be the one that will want to “start things up again.” The important thing is to not chase after her but instead, let her come back to you when she is ready. Good luck!