How to Win Your Ex Back–The Critical First Step

So, you want to win your ex back. You deserved to be dumped, you admit it. You cheated on her, and she found out. Naturally, you feel terrible and are consumed with guilt (being the fine, upstanding man that you are, of course!). You can’t eat or sleep, and everywhere you go, you see her in your mind. Each waking moment is filled with misery, and so is every sleeping moment, because you keep reliving the break-up in your dreams. You didn’t mean to cheat, it just kind of happened. That doesn’t matter to her, though. And now, you don’t know how you can ever be happy again.

Now, most guys would give up in the face of such overwhelming odds, and resign themselves to a lifetime of misery and regret, knowing they’ll probably never find such a wonderful woman again. You could give up, too. In fact, you may think that’s the only thing you can do, especially if she says she never wants to see you again. What you may not realize is…it doesn’t have to be over.

You can win your ex back, even if you cheated, even if you argued all the time, and even if you were a jerk to her. It will take some work, of course, and you have to have a proven plan of action in hand. However, if you play it right, there’s no reason you can’t have her back in your arms again within a couple of months…maybe less. All you need is a plan.

The first step to win your ex back is to resist the urge to call her. We know, this is difficult, especially if your first instinct is to try to get her to understand how this wasn’t your fault. You’ve got to stay strong, though, because if you call her without a well-thought-out plan for your first conversation, the two of you will just end up fighting again and she’ll hate you even more. She needs some time right now to get her head cleared and to have time to miss you, and you need to give her that. Use your time apart (which should be about a month) to work on your plan and get past the immediate pain of the break-up so you can think more rationally.

Next, you have to figure out what you’re going to say to her when you finally do call her. You have to tread very carefully here, as this first phone call is critical to your future together. You need to put her in the right frame of mind to want to have anything to do with you. Don’t push to see her and don’t try to make any plans with her just yet. Simply plant a seed that will continue to grow in her mind once that phone call is done. If you’ve gone about things correctly, chances are that she’ll be calling you before too long. If you want to win your ex back, playing this first phone call right is essential.

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